tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2358773388989294855.post7626688091427728464..comments2017-12-21T10:37:32.473+00:00Comments on Becky's Bonny Babble: Fine, I'm Shallow TooBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13869498728069321163noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2358773388989294855.post-40000821848834956862009-01-06T18:29:00.000+00:002009-01-06T18:29:00.000+00:00Just a lurker weighing in...I am torn between feel...Just a lurker weighing in...<BR/><BR/>I am torn between feeling this way and not... I'll explain: One one hand I struggle with weight - up & down about 60lbs. I know that when I am thinner, I date more and when I'm chubbier, I date less. Being the same person whatever I weigh, I've felt the same frustration.<BR/><BR/>But then I read an article that disturbed me. It was actually about the "Chick-Lit" movement - Bridgit Jones, Shopaholic, etc. It suggested that what appealed to women were the plain heroines: not-super-together women (out of shape, irresponisble with money, not abmitious, smoke too much, tactless...) who nevertheless believe that there's *just something special* about themselves. They blunder around until they're rescued from their lives of drudery by excellent men who have worked hard to distinguish themselves, they're intelligent, rich, attractive, etc. And these men just love the messy women in spite of the messiness... because of that *je ne sais quoi.*<BR/><BR/>The article disturbed me(a lot). Because I see myself reflected in those characters. So recently I've been taking myself out of the game, reasoning that I'm not really doing stuff to make myself accomplished right now ... and I want an accomplished guy... and like attracts like. But I don't think that's the solution either. <BR/><BR/>Not drawing a strong point here, but just wanted to say (lengthily, it appears) that I'm picking up what you're putting down (at least what you were putting down months & months ago).<BR/><BR/> - LurkerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2358773388989294855.post-76569498706745741222008-10-16T18:38:00.000+01:002008-10-16T18:38:00.000+01:00Thanks my anonymous friend. :-)Thanks my anonymous friend. :-)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13869498728069321163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2358773388989294855.post-63930398050600399072008-10-16T14:58:00.000+01:002008-10-16T14:58:00.000+01:00If and when we can entirely love ourselves for who...If and when we can entirely love ourselves for who we are we will draw men in worth loving who also love us for who we are. We can't expect someone to not see the outwards stuff first, that's the only thing we have to go on in that instant 30 seconds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com